I Don't Want to be the Permeable Membrane

The eating, the traveling, the meditation, all these I want to do after I watched and while I'm currently reading "Eat Pray Love". However, if there's one part in the story that I don't want to experience, it would probably the one about the lover becoming the permeable membrane. It is just so sad. I am so in love with the idea of being loved and loving unconditionally, that I'm scared to lose my own self in the process.


I hope and I pray this won't happen to me and Igme. But I am confident. :)


Here's an excerpt:


Moreover, I have boundary issues with men. Or maybe that's not fair to say. To have issues with boundaries, one must have boundaries in the first place, right? But I disappear into the person I love. I am the permeable membrane. If I Iove you, you can have everything. You can have my time, my devotion, my ass, my money, my family, my dog, my dog's money, my dog's time -- everything. If I love you, I will carry all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all these and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else. :(